Why do you feel sad sometimes?
It depends, of course. Standing in front of your sadness, you probably are one of those people who simply accept how they feel, those who avoid reading behind the curtains of their emotional self. This way of being, however, is rarely helpful. Why? Because it means letting sadness drive while taking control of both mind and body. Feeling sad, if this happens, become an endless nightmare, a journey into the most horrible self-centred fears, a one way ticket to a universe made of guilt and frustration.
Is sadness that bad?
No, it isn’t. Like any other emotion, sadness needs to be understood, observed, questioned and embraced… without loosing control over your critical and emotional world. In fact, being sad can also carry a series of precious, sweet lessons about who we are, who we really are. Taste it, feel it, don’t let it run: slow down and listen carefully to whatever your sad self is whispering, because you will learn something about yourself.
Other times you just have to observe sadness carefully: where does it come from? Knowing where your “feeling sad” was born can quickly turn sadness into something different. For instance, you can be happy because you feel sad, if your sadness is a sign of love or if it is related to a beautiful memory. The trick is to keep what you feel close to your heart, so that you can keep melancholy from joining sadness – these two are definitively not good together.
Can sadness be good?
Sure… as long as it is true: fake sadness is pathetic, in the best case scenario, but it can also be harmful. It seems, in fact, that humans tend to enjoy playing the part of the victim, the character who feel sad and lonely, and who ends up convincing him/herself that feeling miserable is the right way to express sadness.
True sadness, just like loneliness, can be beautiful, as you can see looking at these sad pictures, because it is deeply human. It belongs to the family of attachment and care, love and friendship. It can rise when you are lost in your thoughts, it can be your blanket when outside it’s too cold to look at fear straight in the eyes. It can protect you and give you time to process a loss, and it allows you to think carefully before losing someone.
Embrace the beauty of sadness.
Enjoy these beautiful sad pictures.